Parenting, according to Britannica, is “the process of raising children and providing them with protection and care to ensure their healthy development into adulthood”.
However, the Infant and toddler periods are when parenting obligations are at their peak. Children rely on their parents during the early years of life, who also mould the majority of their experiences. For instance, parents select what activities a toddler will partake in and whether an infant would be held, spoken to, or disregarded.
PARENTING: AN INTERESTING JOURNEY.
Even though many different elements have varying degrees of influence on parenting, some of the fundamental characteristics of parenting can be predicted based on the parent’s early experiences and how they are remembered and considered today.
Growing up, I drew a list of things I would not do when I have kids. Yelling and Raising my voice at my kids are some of the things I promised myself not to do.
So, I occasionally lose my cool when I witness other parents yelling or raising their voices at their children, even infants. I did not understand why those parents did that other than to treat their children with love, care, pampering and correcting the kids in love rather than reprimanding them harshly for every little misbehaviour.
But as Isadora Duncan would say “What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print”.
I began to understand why some of the parents yell and raise their voices at their kids when I had my child.
The frustration, stress, exhaustion, and depression among others are real when nurturing a child. It will make you sometimes forget that you made a promise not to shout, scream or even spank your child.
You are sometimes pushed to the wall to yell and raise your voice when your kid refuses to listen to you or you try to prevent them from harming themselves but they refuse to obey. At that point, you shout and when the child keeps crying you feel bad. Meanwhile, you were trying to protect them.
Meanwhile some funny, truths and facts about parenting that no one warns you about:
- There will be times when you dread becoming a parent. Be at peace with your feelings. Everyone who claims that everything is always sunny and rainbows is lying. Everybody has days when they question their eligibility to be a parent.
- You won’t be able to ease yourself in peace for a while. You may give up on ever using the bathroom without being interrupted, whether you have a baby in a bouncy chair next to you or a toddler knocking on the door.
- If it means purchasing a particular item for your child, you will put off spending money on yourself.
- The majority of your leisure time is spent caring for your children.
- A marriage may suffer greatly from life after children. Finding time to be alone together suddenly gets really challenging.
It is worth noting that being a parent can be frustrating at times, but there are other times when it is one of the most gratifying things you can ever do.
Every stage of parenthood will be something you both love and despise.
So, enjoy it while it lasts guys.
Your children will be adults in a flash.
By: Patricia Yamoah.