I have heard this statement ”if you have something to do, do it now before you have a baby” countless times. But I saw it as a statement people are saying just to put some kind of fear in us about childbirth.
I have also heard people say that people who have time to sleep have no vision or are lazy. This is not entirely true.
Until I was blessed with a baby, I could sleep any time and wake up anytime I wanted. I could also set an alarm to restrict the number of hours I slept at night on days I do not want to oversleep. I had a choice when it comes to my sleep.
However, it all changed when my baby was born. It was an exciting time for me and my husband when our baby joined the family. The first day was great. I wake up to check on the baby to see if the baby is doing well.
The baby slept for so many hours during the day and night which made us sometimes praise him for not being like other children who wouldn’t make their parents sleep. This act of our baby, I must say, was just for the first week and a grace period for me and my husband unknown to us what was in store for us.
After the first week, the baby would sleep long hours during the day and at night sleep late and wake up every one hour to feed. This phenomenon of waking up at an hour interval to feed a baby had a toll on us and our sleeping well. We endured this for some months.
Luckily for us, we work from home. So the stress of not sleeping well during the night due to the baby’s intermittent waking up to feed did not affect us since we did not have to be physically present at work.
The insufficient sleep I experienced lasted for a year. It was during this period that the baby would sleep throughout the night. When this happens, the baby would not sleep during the day time which also affects work during the day. Because when the baby does not sleep for some time during the day, he expects you to play with him or carry him which takes part of your work hours and concentration for the day.
It was all this experience I had that made me appreciate the free times I had before becoming a mother. Though motherhood is great, it is stressful, exhaustive, time-consuming, and requires sleeplessness and sacrifice among others.
In conclusion, I would say, I see the value of sleep now more than before. Before, I saw myself to be wasting time whenever I sleep. But now, I wish I could have a few hours to rest my eyes without any interruption but I am not getting it.
Anyway, I have developed tough skin now. I hope to bounce back to my normal sleep schedule when the baby grows up. Fingers crossed.
By: Patricia Yamoah